September 26, 2014 by erikacsc31
This past weekend was one of the best weekend’s I’ve had in a while. Now that I no longer have weekends off, I truly appreciate and take advantage of that time I have with my family and loved ones. We didn’t do anything crazy spontaneous or adventurous. Just a weekend well spent with family. My favorite way to pass my time. 🙂
But on Sunday, I did something I haven’t done in a long, long time: nothing. I mean sure I needed to clean, do laundry, shop for groceries, prepare for the week. Nope. Instead I chose to pass my time doing something I wanted to do, rather than things I needed to do. So I read a book.
I can’t remember the last time I just lounged among an oasis of pillows, sipped my coffee and just read for as long as I wanted to without a care in the world. I read before bed on occasion, or during a lunch break at work, but it’s always interrupted reading. I seriously (and shamelessly) have about three books I’ve started and haven’t quite finished reading. This was a special book though; a gift.
The book? tuesdays with Morrie, by Mitch Albom.
After previously mentioning that I’d always wanted to read that book, my cousin, Trish-in true Trish form-gave me the book as a gift.
I finished the book in a couple of hours.
While reading the book, it became very clear to me how much I was connecting to the message of the book. I was flooded with inspiration. I couldn’t help but to think to myself: this small, quite gesture has come to me at the right time. Funny how that happens.
Without boring you with too much detail, the book cover sums it up pretty clearly: An old man, a young man, and life’s greatest lesson.
It’s a quick simple read packed with mounds of wisdom and inspiration-without the cliches.
As I read through the pages describing the protagonist’s character, Mitch, I found I could kind of relate. To sum things up, Mitch was pretty much a workaholic. He left behind his dream of someday becoming a pianist, and found success in journalism-sports to be exact.
Mitch drowns himself into a deep ocean of work-which he has no problem doing- yet won’t fully commit himself to family life. He’s bought into the rat race culture of America: that success is measured by employment & economic status.
However, a chance moment channel surfing kicks off a series of events that will reconnect him with an old friend, Morrie, and move him profoundly in ways he does not recognize within himself.
What spoken volumes to me about this book was that the message about discovering life and truly living a meaningful life, rather than a busy life.
often, daily fill my days with ridiculous commitments and tasks that I know I can NEVER achieve. And on the days where I don’t have much to do? I kind of wander around the house uneasy, looking for something to do. Part of this is my nature. I can’ t help it. And at times it can be a great thing.
But I’m often left with a huge sense of guilt that I have creating for myself. I set myself up for failure. I’m learning to be in the moment. I do believe being busy is a good thing for me, but I’m still working on creating a balanced life.
Kind of like the rubber band analogy in the book, described by Morrie as “the tension of opposites”-
Life is a series of pulls back and forth. You want to do one thing, but you are bound to something else….like a pull on a rubber band. And most of us live somewhere in the middle.
I think I’m currently pulling hard towards one end of the rubber band and getting shot out to the opposite end!
So out of a simple little pleasure I allowed myself-and a beautiful gesture from my cousin-I received a lot of perspective, reassurance, and inspiration. Lesson Learned?
1st: To allow myself pleasure without guilt; 2nd: To listen to my inner-voice and trust my instincts, rather than chase an unfulfilled (seemingly) successful life; 3rd: And that it’s okay to be busy and make sacrifices, so long as they lead to reasons one and two. 🙂
Going into this weekend, I will be enjoying time with my family and spending it wisely. I hope you do the same!
So thank you to my dearest Trishie for giving me this book and so much more!
Happy Weekend everybody! Spend it wisely!